So get this: My boyfriend and I have two weddings to attend within one week, both which we have to travel for. He is a groomsman in one, and I am a bridesmaid in the other. Our mothers will both be around for each trip so I anticipate a solid week of being asked ‘when we’ll be getting married and having children’. This is sort of our first time as a couple being involved in a round of weddings, and so far all we’ve learned is that it’s a whole lot of trouble and money being spent just for one day. And it’s not just the couple getting married that spend the money – everyone around them has to; gifts, finding something to wear, travel costs, taking time off from work – I’m all for a good party, but this is too much! Everyone has to sacrifice their routines and lives for the sake of someone else’s love? I mean, love is great and all, but sheesh! I wouldn’t expect everyone to do that for me. I don’t want them to. Do I have to have the little girl inside me that dreams of the big, fancy, frilly wedding? NO! NO I say – I think I’d rather elope…
If you ever wonder where I come up with stories, it’s easy – our lives are just that crazy! 
P.S. If either of our mothers end up reading this someday, well, you gals are the best – love ya! 
Yeah, my wife and I kind of just eloped. Went to a Justice of the peace, married, yay… No big deal, really. We had been living together for so long it was mostly a technicality. I wanted her on my work insurance so we could have another child. So, married we were.
We eventually had a small reception a few months later when we told people we were married. It was fun. We did it for us, not for everyone else. (and my parents are divorced, etc. Fighting, bickering, etc. A wedding would have been a stress-fest) People got over it.
Sometimes people just invite close family too. Just those close enough to hold a grudge if you don’t invite them. Lots of traditions, but there are no rules. =)
Haha that’s an awesome story! Exactly how we feel.
In Canada we also have “Common law marriage”, which means after living together for a while you’re considered married. So technically, by law we’re considered married (and I can be on his insurance ^_^). But of course that’s not good enough for the parents.
But I like your idea. *Considers stealing it* ^____^
My sister went and married.It was such a ruckus…That’s were we had decided with my girlfriend to not have that ceremony,only the papers.We have a huge family on both sides so we won’t feel like we missed our marriage…
Best Leisl.
Thanks! I totally understand the huge family thing.
Me and my wife had a big traditional wedding, we did not want to, but we did it for our families. We wanted a destination wedding, very small and exclusive, but we figured with work and money that none of our siblings could make it. Plus we would have to throw a reception anyways. So we figured, hey why not get it out of the way and make everyone happy at the same time.
It was not bad; we had a year and a half to plan, so everything was done way in advance. Still the cake woman and reception hall coordinator decided to make that the weekend they went on vacation, knowing a year in advance the date of our wedding. Needless to say we were not happy with them.
I would still do it again though.
Ah, my big brother did the destination wedding thing too. It was small and nice. We ended up going because I wanted my boyfriend to see where my family was from, and hey, we got a little vacation/adventure out of it.
Glad it worked out for you!
My brother has had to be, or do, something at a wedding every year for three years (and he’s got stuff scheduled for next year too). If I get married, I’d have the whole ceremony, but we’d have it at 2 so we didn’t have to feed everyone, and the reception will be short. none of this $5k wedding dress stuff either. People can be nuts.
Wow, your poor brother
Hmm, somehow I don’t think having it at 2 will allow you to get away with not feeding people… I can see the angry mob coming at you with their forks and knives later on – in my mind it’s quite hilarious, but I’m sure it wouldn’t be in real life….
you can ask them when they plan to enter a nursing home or plan to pay for it all, seeing as its tradition for the brides side to pay for the wedding and the grooms side to pay for the reception. XD you can also remind them about how much pain it was to be asked that when they were your age, back when dinosaures roamed the earth XD lol
Haha, I might just have to use one of those this weekend Shadow! Thanks!
well I am getting married in october and honestly I think my entire wedding will cost less than 2000 dollers. I could not elope since I am my others only duaghter and her head would explode if I did. and I am doing the pretty white poofy dress(which cost me 98 dollers) but dammit I am not wearing heels..I ordered a pair of combat boots online and I am getting married on halloween(my favorite holiday..how can you not love a time when you get to dress up and get free candy) and people are encouraged to dress up in costumes for the wedding. If I have to get married and wear a poofy dress I am doing it my way dammit lol.
Wow, I am impressed that you are able to keep it so cheap, good for you! The Halloween thing actually is a cool idea, getting people to wear costumes ^_^
My birthday is Halloween though, so I’m not sure I’d enjoy that personally, but it is a way cool idea, and you’re doing it your way (Combat boots! Love it!).
Congrats, and good luck!